Oh, the joy I just experienced at reading about your love of Peter Gabriel and what his music has meant to you. This is the cherry on top of a post that resonates so strongly with me. Finally seeing him in concert years ago was one of the highlights of my life. A Secret World Live is what I've used to shift myself out of a funk for over a couple of decades now.
Such a wonderful post, Fanny. First, CONGRATULATIONS! Book proposals are like the worst homework ever and, after I did one, I swore, "Never again!" and independently published after that (started my own imprint; stay away from KDP). Taking that on is huge and hard and you deserve hugs and applause. Second, as someone a little older than you who also grieved the childhood/parents she should have had, you will, indeed, get beyond the grief. It moves away from you somehow, transforms into something else. I think for me it was realizing that no apology would make it better, there was no way to get a do-over, it just was what it was BUT it helped make me the person I am, and I kind of like her, so... What you are doing is showing the way for others, so they have a smoother road. Lastly, it's so hard to write for a living and write for yourself (I ended up doing bookkeeping so I could keep the writing all for me, LOL), so more hugs and applause for doing that. I struggle with chronic fatigue and know both the physical and creative crash that comes when I wear myself out. What you are doing is A LOT and bold and brave and amazing. Endless hugs and applause. Just remember to be kind to yourself. We can forget to do that. xo
I thought I had read this but I had not because it was waiting for me to read it at this perfect moment for me to read it. As you know, this tension is a HARD one for me. I blame my Astro big 3 (scorp, sag, taurus) and capitalism and years of intaking self help culture nonsense on top of the same/grief/trauma. But I feel more glimpses of the spaciousness you’re describing here, not in small measure because of your reminders. A practice to return to, finding that secret third thing again and again.
Another banger. Thank you for your wisdom. I am going to draw up and bring your Desire, Capacity, Prayer to my 9 other landmates at house meeting tomorrow evening. I think it is a really beautiful, digestible, and sorely needed framework for both individual and group pursuits.
I love this journal practice! I'm learning and leaning more into my demand avoidance and any should (internal or external) almost immediately sends me into a reactive space. I fight against it, avoid it, or feel paralyzed and can't do anything at all. I love the idea of checking in with my spirit and asking "what do you desire for today." This feels like a real way to start connecting with my inner locus of trust that feels so hard to access. Thank you as always for sharing your inner world with us!
Oh, the joy I just experienced at reading about your love of Peter Gabriel and what his music has meant to you. This is the cherry on top of a post that resonates so strongly with me. Finally seeing him in concert years ago was one of the highlights of my life. A Secret World Live is what I've used to shift myself out of a funk for over a couple of decades now.
Such a wonderful post, Fanny. First, CONGRATULATIONS! Book proposals are like the worst homework ever and, after I did one, I swore, "Never again!" and independently published after that (started my own imprint; stay away from KDP). Taking that on is huge and hard and you deserve hugs and applause. Second, as someone a little older than you who also grieved the childhood/parents she should have had, you will, indeed, get beyond the grief. It moves away from you somehow, transforms into something else. I think for me it was realizing that no apology would make it better, there was no way to get a do-over, it just was what it was BUT it helped make me the person I am, and I kind of like her, so... What you are doing is showing the way for others, so they have a smoother road. Lastly, it's so hard to write for a living and write for yourself (I ended up doing bookkeeping so I could keep the writing all for me, LOL), so more hugs and applause for doing that. I struggle with chronic fatigue and know both the physical and creative crash that comes when I wear myself out. What you are doing is A LOT and bold and brave and amazing. Endless hugs and applause. Just remember to be kind to yourself. We can forget to do that. xo
I thought I had read this but I had not because it was waiting for me to read it at this perfect moment for me to read it. As you know, this tension is a HARD one for me. I blame my Astro big 3 (scorp, sag, taurus) and capitalism and years of intaking self help culture nonsense on top of the same/grief/trauma. But I feel more glimpses of the spaciousness you’re describing here, not in small measure because of your reminders. A practice to return to, finding that secret third thing again and again.
I’m not a writer and I am ADHD instead of autism, but man do I relate this this!
Another banger. Thank you for your wisdom. I am going to draw up and bring your Desire, Capacity, Prayer to my 9 other landmates at house meeting tomorrow evening. I think it is a really beautiful, digestible, and sorely needed framework for both individual and group pursuits.
I love this journal practice! I'm learning and leaning more into my demand avoidance and any should (internal or external) almost immediately sends me into a reactive space. I fight against it, avoid it, or feel paralyzed and can't do anything at all. I love the idea of checking in with my spirit and asking "what do you desire for today." This feels like a real way to start connecting with my inner locus of trust that feels so hard to access. Thank you as always for sharing your inner world with us!
thank you for this. it was a balm to my entire soul.
The book will be incredible, and evolve at just the right pace to uncover your gifts in all complexity. Beautiful pages, too.❤️